History will judge us
by the difference
we make in the everyday lives
I feel as though I am about to tread into unknown territory. I feel neither prepared nor able to be okay with it.
I sit here and contemplate whether I am overreacting. Is my thought process too skewed to step back and look at the whole picture?
Anyone who has been in a relationship that hasn’t worked out knows how difficult it can be to move forward. I think sometimes it’s even harder when you have children because for better or worse, you are always connected to that other person. When things end on bad terms, I don’t know if it’s possible to be completely objective towards the other parent. For me, it’s a conscious effort and it takes a lot of work to be respectful and not pick at minor details with my ex. I wish it was the same way in reverse, but it’s not, and I’m slowly learning that it never will be.
So, when something happens that involves your children, how do you make a decision that isn’t based on emotions? Is it even possible?
Is it ever okay for an adult to punch a child (hard enough that it makes them cry) because the child slapped their sibling? Is it ever okay for an adult to swear and call a child a little mother-f*%$#r or to push them against a bed and tell them that next time they’ll be thrown through the wall?
When does the line get crossed when it comes to punishing your child? Is my tolerance for what is and what isn’t acceptable lower than most because of how my father raised us? I often wonder if those who’ve survived horrific childhoods are sometimes quicker to call bullshit. I think I am–at least when it comes to children.
I need to do something but I have to make sure it’s the right thing and only based on facts rather that emotion. I just don’t know if that’s possible considering the circumstances and the person involved.
They are safe because they are with me but doing nothing is not an option. This is not the time to remain silent.
What would you do if you were in this situation?